Consider This...

(to those who have children)
(From Kat)
Consider this.. The gift of a life being bought into this world because of the Plan God has made, and the love you and your 'spouse' have shared together is a beautiful and treasured gift..
To those of you whom have been so blessed in your life to experience being a natural parent I send you much grace and love and joy in both thought and prayer because it is a reality we may never see but one I am happy to rejoice with you in.

We consider this...

The opportunity and decision to parent alternatively, to seek outside of ourselves to complete our family, not just with 'fur' kids but with children who deserve to have a stable, loving, caring family to be part of; this is something that we have chosen to do.

For anyone who is only just reading this blog for the first time, I encourage you to go back to the beginning, and read our journey so far, it has been filled with joys, and sorrows, with struggles, and with peace.
As we sit back in this place in our journey, considering all that may be ahead, we have been set on a course of reflection over how we got to this point, and what tugged at our hearts to make us consider permanent care and adoption.

We both admit it did start out a little idealistic, and at the same time quite painful. Since being approved at the start of the year we have had a lot of time to consider and reflect on what the possible link outcomes could be. And most recently we have had an extra boost of thoughts on more serious problems that might be faced, not just by us, but by our children in their life up to the point when we finally meet.

For the adoption side, there is less fear around what they may have gone through especially at such an early age, but for permanent care there is definitive trauma that they would have faced.

This could be possible damage and issues in gestation due to drug and alcohol abuse,   neglect, to abuse of any type from birth or in early development, these children are faced with a number of things before they even have a chance... At a time in their lives when they should be happy, safe, loved, they have not.

For those of you who know us well, you will know that this is something we fight for, for all kids no matter what age. And in all honesty it is one of the main reasons we chose this path. forgetting all the medical and hostile uterus issues, it was because we want to be parents, we want to raise our children (however they come to be in our life) in a loving safe environment and permanent care is for kids who need what we are wanting to give.

Please I urge you if you are considering adoption, don't limit yourself to infants, consider older kids even up to 5yrs, because those babies grow up, and they will need you and love you (hopefully) at any age,...


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We have now met with our new caseworkers in our new area, and we are hopeful and optimistic that we are in the right place at the right time where God wants us to be, for the family he has planned for us.

Praying you are all well, and that God is blessing you richly.

Kat

Transferring and Waiting

Hi Everyone it has been far to long since my last post on here..

Matt and I have had to relocate for work down towards Melbourne, which is a blessing because the home we have moved into is in much better condition, and we feel like it is our home..
Also because Matt has chosen to change his field of work and started a bakery apprenticeship  which he is thriving in.. I have been doing some temp work to keep the funds coming in until I have something permanent..

Unfortunately this means we have to take the good with a little bad, a delay that we now face while our records are transferred to a new team because we have moved out of the area of responsibility for the other team.. which really bites to be honest because we really appreciated our caseworker and the support of the entire team, they were fantastic.

So now as we wait for news from the new agency, and what we may need to do, we'll both focus on work..
Also we need to seek out a new home church as there is no Salvation Army located in our town.. it may mean travel but it also may mean changing to a different church with a night service so that Matt can attend with me..

Please keep us in your prayers during this time of transition and unknown.

We pray you are all well, and safe, and loved.

Much Grace

Kat

Approved and waiting

Well I appologise but here is a well overdue update..
Our Application has been approved, and we are now on the registry for Adoptions and Permanent Care..
thank you all for your prayers and support this far..
Approval went through on the 19th of March and now we are living each day in hope of a phone call..

Right now I am keeping busy sewing and working, and Matt is keeping occupied on holidays at home..
each day we get a little more anxious, but we know God has all the plans ready to fall into place in His timing, and we are just resting in His love and grace and strength..
hope you are all well and that we will have more to report soon

Love and prayers Kat

Watching a kettle boil

Something I hope I should not need to explain but I will anyway..
We are watching the kettle boil, waiting patiently for it to finish this cycle so we can start making the cup of tea/coffee/milo..

I know it might sound a little strange refering to all this like we're making a cuppa but it kind of is like making a cuppa..


We flipped the power switch back in July 2011 and started the process..

Now we are just waiting for the process to go through, we are waiting for the kettle to finish boiling..


we keep topping up the kettle with hopes and dreams and wishes which I honestly believe we wont fun out of..

it wont be long now we hope till we have an answer to our application..

don't know where you are on your travels, don't know if you are waiting too, but we pray that what ever is going on in your lives you will have the strength and hope to follow it through

Much love and grace

Kat

Going through the motions...

So here in limbo land we are going through the motions of our current everyday life... Patiently waiting and hoping for a big tick of approval followed by a phone call that says "we have a match for you.. Would you like to here some details about your kids".

The simple truth is unless you are walking this path it's very hard to grasp exactly what is going on and what you have to go through... No where else in the world do they ask for reference checks, financial capabilities, or look into your background before agreeing to let you have your own biological child... And I guess that us the real truth of it all ... We are in a position with one of us having a hostile uterus and non-compliant ovaries and the other having a not so healthy count and this path, this choice to go through adoption, and or permanent care has been left to us as one of our only options..

It's been such a long time since anyone has questioned it all, i was a little taken back the other day when someone did...

For us the "heart hoping pregnant" it's something we must face each day..
For most of us it isn't a continual battle to defend our position but for those who are just stepping upto and through the door that leads down this path, my thoughts and prayers go out to you... And I pray that you have a strong foundation of support that is there to stand with you no matter what comes ahead...

For right now back to do some dream washing ... You know the kind where you wish it was little socks, tops, and bits and pieces you were hanging out to dry..

Much grace

Kat xx

Yes there has been a name change

We have changed.... The blog name..
We thought it made a little more sense and was a little more fun and less analytical
We are now on the adoption and permanent care list..

You see, silly us didn't realise we could be on both lists so now we are .

It's all very exciting and our dreams have just expanded to the idea of having a little baby possibly...

So as we wait and see and explode from excitement and hope that overwhelms us, we hope you will pray with us for God to guide us in all things ..