I am still hoping all of you have had a joyful Christmas, surrounded by and shared with loved ones.
We celebrated our two family Christmas's this year and I have to admit something felt a little odd.
As we sat around sharing in so much Christmas Cheer, both Matt and I both felt a little confused and not quite complete.
As we spoke that night on Christmas Day, and came to the same conclusion, we were missing our kids.
By this early stage in our marriage we had both assumed we would be parents, watching our kids opening presents, and them being more amused by the paper and the boxes than the presents.
Or maybe it would be us opening gifts for one yet to be born.
As we sat there over the Two celebrations, watching our dear nieces and nephews playing together, and opening their gifts; we looked in hope at what our kids might be doing, playing Cricket in the park,
running around the playground, having a Nerf War, hugging loved ones.
While we wait for these next few weeks to pass so we can undertake our interviews and assessments, all we can do is hope and dream and keep our fingers crossed.
Hope that all goes smoothly, and that permission is granted and we are approved. Fingers crossed that there are no hickups and that this time next year we will be celebrating Christmas as a Family with our child or children.
Our interviews and assessments are the next big step, one that we are both keenly aware will have a big impact on our application, as always though in all things we pray and leave it in Gods hands.
Pray that he is opening the doors, and preparing not only us but, the child or children who will be coming into our lives, the BParents who are having to relinquish their kids, the Foster Family that will be caring for them, and the workers who take each step with caution to make sure the right match is made.
In all things we pray and we ask that you will pray with us too.
It is coming up to the end of the year and 2012 promises to be a great one with lots of fun and excitement.
I hope you are well, and that you are blessed richly in the year to come
Kat xx
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
4 Sleeps and many dreams
Today has been spent baking goodies to give as presents this year, and sewing up a storm for a little niece of ours. During today Matt and I have both been dreaming of so many things.
Today while being all creative I caught myself dreaming of kids running around the house and out in the yard, visions that verged of memories of making a floury mess in the kitchen as rolled out the cookie dough to be cut with cookie cutters and then baked leaving a warm and comforting smell of chocolate and cinnamon through the house.
And while sewing up little outfits for a loved ones little girl, I could not help but dream of making them for our own kids. These dreams and thoughts now see to be so close and so tangible now as we edge towards Christmas and on into the new year of 2012.
Matt came to me a couple of times and helped where he could, telling me rather giddily hey we could do this with our kids, and how he saw some bright coloured kids utensils in the shops the other day and how we could get some of them so they had their own to use.
As I completed each little outfit it went from a "oh I like that fabric" earlier on in the day to "those look wonderful, you could make some like those for our kids". my response was well maybe but would have to change the fabric and pattern for a boy because I am not so sure they would want pretty pink flowers or a dress to wear.
The Truth of it all is, we have been dreaming a lot of late, and even more so the closer we get to Christmas.
Dreaming of :
Letters to Santa being written and sent out.
A Family Decorated tree, surrounded by presents and stockings waiting to be filled.
Sweet sleeping children tucked up in bed after a day of school or play.
A countdown to Christmas in sleeps with activities to whittle the time away.
Making and decorating Gingerbread men and cookies together.
Sitting around in the lounge room on Christmas Eve, reading the real story of Christmas and Jesus Birth.
Starting up so many of our own Christmas Traditions as a family
O so very many dreams to look forward to :)
It is our hope and our belief that once they come into our homes and our lives, no matter what thier previous experience of this time of the year has been in the past that they will come to love it, to celebrate it, to enjoy it and find peace.
Christmas is a time to feel love, to share love, and to give love.
Just in case I don't make it back on here before then, I hope and pray that each and everyone of you is blessed richly this Christmas with joy that overflows, with love the fills your heart and home, and with peace as we finish this year and begin a new.
Merry Christmas Everyone, and a Safe an Joyful New Year for 2012.
God Bless
Much Grace
Kat xx
Today while being all creative I caught myself dreaming of kids running around the house and out in the yard, visions that verged of memories of making a floury mess in the kitchen as rolled out the cookie dough to be cut with cookie cutters and then baked leaving a warm and comforting smell of chocolate and cinnamon through the house.
And while sewing up little outfits for a loved ones little girl, I could not help but dream of making them for our own kids. These dreams and thoughts now see to be so close and so tangible now as we edge towards Christmas and on into the new year of 2012.
Matt came to me a couple of times and helped where he could, telling me rather giddily hey we could do this with our kids, and how he saw some bright coloured kids utensils in the shops the other day and how we could get some of them so they had their own to use.
As I completed each little outfit it went from a "oh I like that fabric" earlier on in the day to "those look wonderful, you could make some like those for our kids". my response was well maybe but would have to change the fabric and pattern for a boy because I am not so sure they would want pretty pink flowers or a dress to wear.
The Truth of it all is, we have been dreaming a lot of late, and even more so the closer we get to Christmas.
Dreaming of :
Letters to Santa being written and sent out.
A Family Decorated tree, surrounded by presents and stockings waiting to be filled.
Sweet sleeping children tucked up in bed after a day of school or play.
A countdown to Christmas in sleeps with activities to whittle the time away.
Making and decorating Gingerbread men and cookies together.
Sitting around in the lounge room on Christmas Eve, reading the real story of Christmas and Jesus Birth.
Starting up so many of our own Christmas Traditions as a family
O so very many dreams to look forward to :)
It is our hope and our belief that once they come into our homes and our lives, no matter what thier previous experience of this time of the year has been in the past that they will come to love it, to celebrate it, to enjoy it and find peace.
Christmas is a time to feel love, to share love, and to give love.
Just in case I don't make it back on here before then, I hope and pray that each and everyone of you is blessed richly this Christmas with joy that overflows, with love the fills your heart and home, and with peace as we finish this year and begin a new.
Merry Christmas Everyone, and a Safe an Joyful New Year for 2012.
God Bless
Much Grace
Kat xx
Sunday, December 4, 2011
Tis the Season to Be Jolly while we wait for you
Well we are now at the start of December 2011.
This past month has been something of a whirl wind for us, not quite sure where the month has gone really.
We celebrated the marriage of one of my dearest and closest friends in the middle of the month, and I felt so truly blessed to be part of that special day. This are slowly kicking along.
It is the start of December and we have put up our Christmas Tree, and some decorations, and have even started to organise Christmas this year with our families.
And as we sit here this afternoon we wonder about our kids; what you are doing, are you playing, are you safe, what do you like, what do you wish Santa would bring you for Christmas, do you already know about the first Christmas?.. all these things and more are running through our minds, along with, when will we finally meet you, what will you look like, do you like to do the things we hope you will ??
We set up the tree, and have placed presents underneath so you know we have been thinking of you.. while the presents contain our love, our hope, our support, and our care in all things, rather than toys and games. we look forward to filling your life with these things and the presents follow.
We have just been assigned our Case Worker and look forward to meeting with her in January, because it will be one step closer to our Kid/s coming home..
hoping you are all well, much love and grace to you all
Kat
This past month has been something of a whirl wind for us, not quite sure where the month has gone really.
We celebrated the marriage of one of my dearest and closest friends in the middle of the month, and I felt so truly blessed to be part of that special day. This are slowly kicking along.
It is the start of December and we have put up our Christmas Tree, and some decorations, and have even started to organise Christmas this year with our families.
And as we sit here this afternoon we wonder about our kids; what you are doing, are you playing, are you safe, what do you like, what do you wish Santa would bring you for Christmas, do you already know about the first Christmas?.. all these things and more are running through our minds, along with, when will we finally meet you, what will you look like, do you like to do the things we hope you will ??
We set up the tree, and have placed presents underneath so you know we have been thinking of you.. while the presents contain our love, our hope, our support, and our care in all things, rather than toys and games. we look forward to filling your life with these things and the presents follow.
We have just been assigned our Case Worker and look forward to meeting with her in January, because it will be one step closer to our Kid/s coming home..
hoping you are all well, much love and grace to you all
Kat
Monday, November 7, 2011
WOW November already
ok my deepest apologies for not updating this blog sooner, I honestly had not realised time had passed so quickly since my last entry..
so there are lots of things that have been happening,
Matt and I have both been busy at work, Matt more than myself, but we have both been getting active and enjoying being part of our local community more and more.
This past fortnight an Uncle of mine returned home for his eternal reward. I mention my uncle because he was an amazing man, he and his wife who have now both passed on are and have been an amazing influence in my life, and especially now. You see, for over 40 years they were foster parents and adoptive parents.
their grace and love and giving spirits were and still are amazing and precious gifts that they shared openly.
Our hope is that when the time comes, when we are old and grey and called home that our loved ones will see is in this same light, with love and grace and care.
We have completed and submitted our life stories and medicals and all our current references are in too.
I have to say, those life stories while it looked like a simple task to complete before we started, it was far from it. Those questions did exactly what they were meant to do, they gave us the time to look at ourselves at our own life and make sure that we knew we were ready.
if you are at this stage in your own application I have only one bit of advice, take your time, this is not a race its a marathon. Take the time to really consider and answer all of the sections properly, the end result once completed is so worth the wait and the time it takes to complete it.
so now we sit back and wait again. the next few weeks and few months will be more than a little interesting we're sure.
I am off on a weekend adventure with a dear friend to check out some Horse related bits soon, a dear friend of mine is getting married not long after that and I have been asked to be a matron of honour, mum is hopefully going to make it through her 71st birthday, and then we are into December.. will do my all to keep this up and running a little more regularly. over the coming weeks
hope you are all well
Kat xx
so there are lots of things that have been happening,
Matt and I have both been busy at work, Matt more than myself, but we have both been getting active and enjoying being part of our local community more and more.
This past fortnight an Uncle of mine returned home for his eternal reward. I mention my uncle because he was an amazing man, he and his wife who have now both passed on are and have been an amazing influence in my life, and especially now. You see, for over 40 years they were foster parents and adoptive parents.
their grace and love and giving spirits were and still are amazing and precious gifts that they shared openly.
Our hope is that when the time comes, when we are old and grey and called home that our loved ones will see is in this same light, with love and grace and care.
We have completed and submitted our life stories and medicals and all our current references are in too.
I have to say, those life stories while it looked like a simple task to complete before we started, it was far from it. Those questions did exactly what they were meant to do, they gave us the time to look at ourselves at our own life and make sure that we knew we were ready.
if you are at this stage in your own application I have only one bit of advice, take your time, this is not a race its a marathon. Take the time to really consider and answer all of the sections properly, the end result once completed is so worth the wait and the time it takes to complete it.
so now we sit back and wait again. the next few weeks and few months will be more than a little interesting we're sure.
I am off on a weekend adventure with a dear friend to check out some Horse related bits soon, a dear friend of mine is getting married not long after that and I have been asked to be a matron of honour, mum is hopefully going to make it through her 71st birthday, and then we are into December.. will do my all to keep this up and running a little more regularly. over the coming weeks
hope you are all well
Kat xx
Monday, September 12, 2011
Watch this clip, and open your hearts
during our Education Sessions we were presented with the following clip, it is reasons like the ones expressed in this clip that we know we are on the right path, and know that this is where God has prepared for us to go.
I suggest to any one of you who are watching this to have the tissues ready, to have your hearts and minds open to what you read and hear. If Adoption or Permanent Care or Foster Care is something you are considering watch this first.
I suggest to any one of you who are watching this to have the tissues ready, to have your hearts and minds open to what you read and hear. If Adoption or Permanent Care or Foster Care is something you are considering watch this first.
Friday, September 9, 2011
Short Explanation.. time for more paperwork
I had someone ask me the other day why the change of the Blog name from Adoption to Permanent Care.. Well the truth is Permanent Care is the area we have always been leaning towards..
Adoption is infant adoption (new borns) a process and a path that can be quite lengthy and in the end you bring home a baby.. now while we are not against the idea of having a baby our focus has never been that.,. it has been to become parents, to share our love and care with a child or children that come into our care.
So we felt that the name change was needed.
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and now time for more paperwork.. we received our medical check and life story questions this week.. all I can say is bring on the Medical Checks and Time to do one question at a time in that life story .. Its going to be interesting going through the long list this next few weeks..
I have been sick with the flu this last week and it is finally starting to ease up so fingers crossed this is all the start of something wonderful.
hope you are all well.. take care
Kat
Adoption is infant adoption (new borns) a process and a path that can be quite lengthy and in the end you bring home a baby.. now while we are not against the idea of having a baby our focus has never been that.,. it has been to become parents, to share our love and care with a child or children that come into our care.
So we felt that the name change was needed.
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and now time for more paperwork.. we received our medical check and life story questions this week.. all I can say is bring on the Medical Checks and Time to do one question at a time in that life story .. Its going to be interesting going through the long list this next few weeks..
I have been sick with the flu this last week and it is finally starting to ease up so fingers crossed this is all the start of something wonderful.
hope you are all well.. take care
Kat
Saturday, September 3, 2011
Third Friday ... and now what...
sorry its taken a couple of days to get an update in here, have been quite busy helping friends move house so have not had much time near the computer lately.. also haven't been to well, some silly head cold thingy trying to take over and I am almost winning at the moment..
anyways .. last Friday the 26th, as the title said was the third in the PC Education Sessions. the final one before we start our paperwork.
To sum up this last month it has truly been the most extraordinary time. It has definitely put in perspective what we had been considering and discussing over the course, and also over the time we personally were considering where to go and what to do after our fertility issues became a bigger issue that once thought.
Right now we are in a really good place.. we went into all of these sessions with an open heart and an open mind ready to have any questions answered, to make new friends, to understand the support and the process that will be involved and now we are starting the next step in the process.
On the last day, everyone was handed a preliminary application form to fill out, to give a small amount of insight into our selves and our lives and what we are looking at applying for.
So we filled it and and sent it off this week, and now we need to wait for the paperwork to come so we can start working on filling out all the application details and forms: Get Medicals, references, life story's and all that jazz completed.
As excited as we are to begin it all we are going to sit back and wait for it all to roll in we don't want to jinx anything so I apologise if the future posts seem a little vague. They may not be but I am sure there will be some you might read and just go "what on earth are they talking about?" so again in advance I apologise. But in the same breath I don't.
This is a very personal and important time ahead of us and our families and right now we ask that you will keep us in your prayers and thoughts.
We don't know how long or how short this path is ahead but we know everything is in Gods hands and will come to pass in His time. So for now until the paperwork arrives, we wait and we pray and we hope.
anyways .. last Friday the 26th, as the title said was the third in the PC Education Sessions. the final one before we start our paperwork.
To sum up this last month it has truly been the most extraordinary time. It has definitely put in perspective what we had been considering and discussing over the course, and also over the time we personally were considering where to go and what to do after our fertility issues became a bigger issue that once thought.
Right now we are in a really good place.. we went into all of these sessions with an open heart and an open mind ready to have any questions answered, to make new friends, to understand the support and the process that will be involved and now we are starting the next step in the process.
On the last day, everyone was handed a preliminary application form to fill out, to give a small amount of insight into our selves and our lives and what we are looking at applying for.
So we filled it and and sent it off this week, and now we need to wait for the paperwork to come so we can start working on filling out all the application details and forms: Get Medicals, references, life story's and all that jazz completed.
As excited as we are to begin it all we are going to sit back and wait for it all to roll in we don't want to jinx anything so I apologise if the future posts seem a little vague. They may not be but I am sure there will be some you might read and just go "what on earth are they talking about?" so again in advance I apologise. But in the same breath I don't.
This is a very personal and important time ahead of us and our families and right now we ask that you will keep us in your prayers and thoughts.
We don't know how long or how short this path is ahead but we know everything is in Gods hands and will come to pass in His time. So for now until the paperwork arrives, we wait and we pray and we hope.
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Third Friday still to come
We have our 3rd and Final PC Education Session tomorrow, and Matt and I are both looking forward to the day, to all the we will hear, all that we will be given and shown..
it seems like yesterday we went to the first session, but it all feels so right which may just be why it feels the way it does at this point.
as I sit here, Matt is off at Band Practice with the local Brass band, our little friend is tucked up asleep in bed, the cat is curled up on the couch beside me, and everything is so still and so quiet and as I was reminded today by a dear friend, these times are very few and far between when you have a family and to cherish them when they happen. so as I sit here with my chocolate and my chick flick playing I am taking time to cherish, but also taking time to daydream about what may be ahead. Matt and I have both been doing that a lot lately. He has been checking out the catalogs to kids bikes and toys and bits a pieces and I have been tracking down old recipes that I used to cook with mum, and linen for the beds and clothes for the kids.
Kyle has told us Bob the builder is just not cool as Cars and Ben 10 , oh well to each their own and that is exactly it.
we don't know what is in store for us, we have no idea how fast or how long the process may take. all we can do at this point is sit back and take each step one day at a time.
Please pray for tomorrow for this last session, please pray for the families and the kids that are and will be affected by Permanent Care. Its not an easy place to be in on any side of the Triad. and all we can do is walk by faith that God will prepare the way. that he will keep us strong and covered by his grace through all that is ahead.
Love and Prayers to all
Kat
it seems like yesterday we went to the first session, but it all feels so right which may just be why it feels the way it does at this point.
as I sit here, Matt is off at Band Practice with the local Brass band, our little friend is tucked up asleep in bed, the cat is curled up on the couch beside me, and everything is so still and so quiet and as I was reminded today by a dear friend, these times are very few and far between when you have a family and to cherish them when they happen. so as I sit here with my chocolate and my chick flick playing I am taking time to cherish, but also taking time to daydream about what may be ahead. Matt and I have both been doing that a lot lately. He has been checking out the catalogs to kids bikes and toys and bits a pieces and I have been tracking down old recipes that I used to cook with mum, and linen for the beds and clothes for the kids.
Kyle has told us Bob the builder is just not cool as Cars and Ben 10 , oh well to each their own and that is exactly it.
we don't know what is in store for us, we have no idea how fast or how long the process may take. all we can do at this point is sit back and take each step one day at a time.
Please pray for tomorrow for this last session, please pray for the families and the kids that are and will be affected by Permanent Care. Its not an easy place to be in on any side of the Triad. and all we can do is walk by faith that God will prepare the way. that he will keep us strong and covered by his grace through all that is ahead.
Love and Prayers to all
Kat
Monday, August 22, 2011
In God Alone We Trust
Well we had a very deep and emotional day Friday with our second PC Education Day.
Nothing was hidden, nothing was sugar coated. The Cold hard facts out for everyone that this may or may not happen the way you have thought or hoped. We are extremely grateful for the insight we have been given over past months from adoptee's and adoptive parents, and for the insight that was granted to us on Friday.
While we are both comfortable with what is ahead for us no matter what may come surrounding the PC or Adoption process, or even past that looking to where we will be as a family in the future.
For those of you who have been out of the loop we relocated to a new town a few months back which has us feeling right at home, right where we are meant to be.. and so we have started looking at land in our area. That might seem a little premature to some, but we feel its a great chance to start dreaming and planning ahead. so we have even been looking into building materials and ideas surrounding how the house will look. We have looked into many different ideas and have decided to go with a Steel Frame Straw Bale Home.. having the steel frame allows us to play around with the idea of a second story although at present the plans we have come across we are quite happy with keeping it as a single story so we will see what time brings.
I am looking at returning to fulltime work with a couple of options sitting in front of me at the moment and now I am just not sure which one to respond to so thinking and praying lots at present.
Looking ahead to this week, we have our little friend coming to stay again this week which looks to be much fun. I have my tutorial paper to present on Tuesday which should be grand I hope.
we have some dear new friends that are coming down to the last days to find a place and move so i am sure there will be some packing and moving happening in this next week and also... last but not least.. Our 3rd and final PCEducation Day on Friday to look forward to :D so lots going on and can use all the prayer and support possible..
hope you are all well
will check in again soon
Kat xx
Nothing was hidden, nothing was sugar coated. The Cold hard facts out for everyone that this may or may not happen the way you have thought or hoped. We are extremely grateful for the insight we have been given over past months from adoptee's and adoptive parents, and for the insight that was granted to us on Friday.
While we are both comfortable with what is ahead for us no matter what may come surrounding the PC or Adoption process, or even past that looking to where we will be as a family in the future.
For those of you who have been out of the loop we relocated to a new town a few months back which has us feeling right at home, right where we are meant to be.. and so we have started looking at land in our area. That might seem a little premature to some, but we feel its a great chance to start dreaming and planning ahead. so we have even been looking into building materials and ideas surrounding how the house will look. We have looked into many different ideas and have decided to go with a Steel Frame Straw Bale Home.. having the steel frame allows us to play around with the idea of a second story although at present the plans we have come across we are quite happy with keeping it as a single story so we will see what time brings.
I am looking at returning to fulltime work with a couple of options sitting in front of me at the moment and now I am just not sure which one to respond to so thinking and praying lots at present.
Looking ahead to this week, we have our little friend coming to stay again this week which looks to be much fun. I have my tutorial paper to present on Tuesday which should be grand I hope.
we have some dear new friends that are coming down to the last days to find a place and move so i am sure there will be some packing and moving happening in this next week and also... last but not least.. Our 3rd and final PCEducation Day on Friday to look forward to :D so lots going on and can use all the prayer and support possible..
hope you are all well
will check in again soon
Kat xx
Monday, August 15, 2011
First Friday ..
Last week just to update, that little boy we cared for is such a blessing. What an amazing little man he is.
We get to pick him up from school again tonight and have him for the next 3 days.. :)
But getting back to last week and the focus on Friday... Our First Permanent Care Education Session.
Matt and I will both admit we didn't completely know what to expect, but what we hoped for and received was confirmation that we were in the right place, at the right time, for the right reason.
We gathered together with 10 other couples and singles that day, and while many already had children, or had fostered children, there were still a few of us that were looking at this as our stepping stone into parenting.
For us, listening to and reading through the information was comforting, and confirming. As we filled in some of the class worksheets we felt this amazing calm inside. It wasn't scary, it wasn't uncomfortable, it was like we were where we were meant to be.
So just a quick insight, one of the key things you really need to consider when you are looking at Permanent Care, Adoption, Foster Care, and we guess even other choices such as career, moving, etc.. is What is your Motivation.. are you doing it for the right reasons?
In our case relating to adoption it was Yes.
For a lot of choices and paths we have looked and in the past it has been a case of wrong place, wrong time, wrong information, wrong people involved in it.
But this feels right in every way. Neither Matt or I doubt that there will be a lot of hoops and hurdles ahead of us but for right now we are enjoying the calm that we are sitting in.
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Its Monday night now and another week starts with our little friend staying with us.. and for the last hour he has been playing race-cars with Matt on the floor with his new Lightening McQueen car .. he is so adorable.. and now he is walking round the house talking to his Mum now on the phone.. he is just such a little man..
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Oh well Tea Time now.. have a great day everyone
We get to pick him up from school again tonight and have him for the next 3 days.. :)
But getting back to last week and the focus on Friday... Our First Permanent Care Education Session.
Matt and I will both admit we didn't completely know what to expect, but what we hoped for and received was confirmation that we were in the right place, at the right time, for the right reason.
We gathered together with 10 other couples and singles that day, and while many already had children, or had fostered children, there were still a few of us that were looking at this as our stepping stone into parenting.
For us, listening to and reading through the information was comforting, and confirming. As we filled in some of the class worksheets we felt this amazing calm inside. It wasn't scary, it wasn't uncomfortable, it was like we were where we were meant to be.
So just a quick insight, one of the key things you really need to consider when you are looking at Permanent Care, Adoption, Foster Care, and we guess even other choices such as career, moving, etc.. is What is your Motivation.. are you doing it for the right reasons?
In our case relating to adoption it was Yes.
For a lot of choices and paths we have looked and in the past it has been a case of wrong place, wrong time, wrong information, wrong people involved in it.
But this feels right in every way. Neither Matt or I doubt that there will be a lot of hoops and hurdles ahead of us but for right now we are enjoying the calm that we are sitting in.
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Its Monday night now and another week starts with our little friend staying with us.. and for the last hour he has been playing race-cars with Matt on the floor with his new Lightening McQueen car .. he is so adorable.. and now he is walking round the house talking to his Mum now on the phone.. he is just such a little man..
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Oh well Tea Time now.. have a great day everyone
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Overwhelmed by God and His blessings
Be prepared you never know when or how God will answer your prayers...
Matt and I have been praying constantly "God please prepare us, what ever you need us to do, how ever you want to do it, we are open to your leading"
Well today begins a 4 week adventure.
Yesterday in church we were approached by a dear sister in Christ who is facing a hard road ahead these next few weeks and has asked us while away during the week for us to look after her little boy.
so we have taken on mum and dad duties for a 6yr old boy starting today when we bring him home from after school care..
so starting tomorrow.. up in the morning to get ready for school, drop off, pick him back up again after school, homework and fun dinner and off to bed..
he is a funny kid, a bit hyper than most but goes with the ADHD territory..
He did really well with his homework ( reader and words) kept squeeling with excitement every time he got the word right and got a tick next to the words he read on the list
He had fun racing Matt on the Wii with his favorite Sonic Characters..
At Bed time had the funny experience of introducing him to.... a .. hot water bottle.. he kept saying but it will pop, spent 15mins trying to explain how its a special bottle that is made so it wont, asked me to pray so God would make sure it didn't pop.. hehehe was kind of funny and sweet..
So now its late and he is all tucked up asleep in bed.
As Matt and I sat here tonight chatting it Hit us just how close everything is and again how exciting it all is.
Friday (the first session) just seems so close and yet so far away, but for right now we are just enjoying the opportunity to put some positive experiences and influences into this little guys life..
So its late and I need to be up early to get not one but two men up and ready in the morning..
*BIG SMILE* looking forward to it not just being a favor we are doing, and its a child of our own we are looking after..
Matt and I have been praying constantly "God please prepare us, what ever you need us to do, how ever you want to do it, we are open to your leading"
Well today begins a 4 week adventure.
Yesterday in church we were approached by a dear sister in Christ who is facing a hard road ahead these next few weeks and has asked us while away during the week for us to look after her little boy.
so we have taken on mum and dad duties for a 6yr old boy starting today when we bring him home from after school care..
so starting tomorrow.. up in the morning to get ready for school, drop off, pick him back up again after school, homework and fun dinner and off to bed..
he is a funny kid, a bit hyper than most but goes with the ADHD territory..
He did really well with his homework ( reader and words) kept squeeling with excitement every time he got the word right and got a tick next to the words he read on the list
He had fun racing Matt on the Wii with his favorite Sonic Characters..
At Bed time had the funny experience of introducing him to.... a .. hot water bottle.. he kept saying but it will pop, spent 15mins trying to explain how its a special bottle that is made so it wont, asked me to pray so God would make sure it didn't pop.. hehehe was kind of funny and sweet..
So now its late and he is all tucked up asleep in bed.
As Matt and I sat here tonight chatting it Hit us just how close everything is and again how exciting it all is.
Friday (the first session) just seems so close and yet so far away, but for right now we are just enjoying the opportunity to put some positive experiences and influences into this little guys life..
So its late and I need to be up early to get not one but two men up and ready in the morning..
*BIG SMILE* looking forward to it not just being a favor we are doing, and its a child of our own we are looking after..
Thursday, August 4, 2011
Getting Ready to Go Back To School.. Well Training...
We got the confirmation letter in the mail yesterday that we are registered for the Permanent Care Training on the next 3 Fridays.. and its just so exciting..
We will finally get to really delve into what is ahead of us.. it's like getting ready for the first day of highschool or Uni or some level of education that we have never looked at or attempted before.. Matt is trying to remain calm and mellow about it all afraid he will jinx it and for me.. well as I sit back letting my mind wander once again to the possibilities that are ahead of us I am given clarity over other things surrounding us at present, other choices that are yet to be made.
I love how God is using these times to shape my heart and mind to His will .. He used to have to sit back and wait till I dropped myself in another hole to get my attention.. but these days He just gently and slowly works His word and His will into my life.
Anyways this Training.. we are looking at from a learning perspective and from a fellowship perspective... its an opportunity to come to know other couples and even singles that are in the same position as us, that are looking at this as a way of starting a family and sharing life with another. What an amazing blessing to do this and to think God has been preparing us for such a time as this..
I only hope and pray at this point that what issues may or may not arise are swiftly dealt with and not extended to far in red tape.
Please pray for us for this next step in the journey,.. it has us looking at a lot of things at the moment our living situation , our employment, our hearts, and life. please pray for God to reveal His path just a little more .. we know patience is a virtue but we are also strong believers in pray..
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We wanted to quickly share this outside note with you, We had the pleasure as many others in a support group did to read a letter from an Amum to a Bmum and the sweetness and consideration that she shared is what we hope we can share with our children, and Bparents.
it was not a letter of divine right but of care and consideration for time that may have seen lost, emotions that have been and are yet to be shared, about the love they both have for a now young woman who has grown into an amazing individual.. such things we hope and dream about..
Please Lord we pray and know that you have everything planned and set before us and all we need do is lean on your understanding and not our own. God at this time we pray that no matter what is ahead of us you will prepare the way and prepare us to deal with it, with your grace and love. Amen
We will finally get to really delve into what is ahead of us.. it's like getting ready for the first day of highschool or Uni or some level of education that we have never looked at or attempted before.. Matt is trying to remain calm and mellow about it all afraid he will jinx it and for me.. well as I sit back letting my mind wander once again to the possibilities that are ahead of us I am given clarity over other things surrounding us at present, other choices that are yet to be made.
I love how God is using these times to shape my heart and mind to His will .. He used to have to sit back and wait till I dropped myself in another hole to get my attention.. but these days He just gently and slowly works His word and His will into my life.
Anyways this Training.. we are looking at from a learning perspective and from a fellowship perspective... its an opportunity to come to know other couples and even singles that are in the same position as us, that are looking at this as a way of starting a family and sharing life with another. What an amazing blessing to do this and to think God has been preparing us for such a time as this..
I only hope and pray at this point that what issues may or may not arise are swiftly dealt with and not extended to far in red tape.
Please pray for us for this next step in the journey,.. it has us looking at a lot of things at the moment our living situation , our employment, our hearts, and life. please pray for God to reveal His path just a little more .. we know patience is a virtue but we are also strong believers in pray..
____________
We wanted to quickly share this outside note with you, We had the pleasure as many others in a support group did to read a letter from an Amum to a Bmum and the sweetness and consideration that she shared is what we hope we can share with our children, and Bparents.
it was not a letter of divine right but of care and consideration for time that may have seen lost, emotions that have been and are yet to be shared, about the love they both have for a now young woman who has grown into an amazing individual.. such things we hope and dream about..
Please Lord we pray and know that you have everything planned and set before us and all we need do is lean on your understanding and not our own. God at this time we pray that no matter what is ahead of us you will prepare the way and prepare us to deal with it, with your grace and love. Amen
Thursday, July 28, 2011
Seasons Out of Sync
It has been just a little while since I blogged last not to long but long enough I think. would just like to say thank you to all those who have been reading the blog, I hope it brings you some insight or comfort, and as we go through this time to come I hope it continues to do so.
I had a strange question the other day, it was "why did you choose to use an autumn leaf back ground"
I know it may seem like a bit of a silly question to be answering but I think its important..
We all, no matter what things we face in life go through seasons of change, sometimes:
Well right now we are in our Autumn, dealing with the bare truth of things, trying to see and explain clearly what is ahead. looking and what has fallen our way already and appreciating everything as it comes. gathering up and pruning the things in our past that are no longer required and removing them from our life so we can focus on the future.
As I said everyone has a season
ours at this moment happens to be Autumn.. we know there is a summer just around the corner then possibly a long cold winter after that but then will come the Spring with all the hopes and joys it holds.
Hope and pray you are all well no matter where you are on your path, or where you have been.
Don't forget to take time to stop and smell the roses, appreciate what is at hand, and never forget that God has a plan and a purpose for all things even if you don't know what that plan is God does, so be open, prepare yourself, your heart and your life to the possibilities that may be ahead.
Kat xx
I had a strange question the other day, it was "why did you choose to use an autumn leaf back ground"
I know it may seem like a bit of a silly question to be answering but I think its important..
We all, no matter what things we face in life go through seasons of change, sometimes:
- its new and bright and fresh and exciting like spring,
- sometimes its cold and quiet and feels like it goes on forever like winter,
- then there is summer when things get hot and sometimes difficult to understand and or bare,
- and that just leaves us with autumn, a calming time when we look at the changes that have happened and are happening, when there is a dramatic shift in how things are around us, when the bare truths are exposed and (for any one who has ever worked or an orchard out there) its a time to prune back all that is in the way so the new growth can come through.
Well right now we are in our Autumn, dealing with the bare truth of things, trying to see and explain clearly what is ahead. looking and what has fallen our way already and appreciating everything as it comes. gathering up and pruning the things in our past that are no longer required and removing them from our life so we can focus on the future.
As I said everyone has a season
ours at this moment happens to be Autumn.. we know there is a summer just around the corner then possibly a long cold winter after that but then will come the Spring with all the hopes and joys it holds.
Hope and pray you are all well no matter where you are on your path, or where you have been.
Don't forget to take time to stop and smell the roses, appreciate what is at hand, and never forget that God has a plan and a purpose for all things even if you don't know what that plan is God does, so be open, prepare yourself, your heart and your life to the possibilities that may be ahead.
Kat xx
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Enhanced Prayer, and Off to School
So I am a firm believer in prayer, and I tend to spend much of the day in prayer over one thing or another.. I have been finding more and more though that it has become more intense in these past months. Yes granted this could because of the place of complete surrender I have been trying to keep myself in. But I also believe it has something to do with the type of prayer.
Some times we can get so caught up in the world and activities around us that we get into auto pilot of what we are thinking and praying about. These past 2 months with the move, there has been a dramatic shift in location, emotion, situation, and I believe this has given birth to a definite shift in prayer, both in the doing and the listening to what God is saying.
And I must admit I love it.. its been a really interesting change, rather than a constant prayer in desperation for Jesus to move in my heart and in my life, to take me out of the complacency that I had settled into and really stamp a mark in my life that I could not deny. Well again in an answer to prayer he has done that, He has enriched my time of prayer, shifted my thoughts to look more closely at what is really important, And I believe that through others He is encouraging us to open our hearts more to the children He is surrounding us with in a matter of preparation for the future adoptive children we have enter our lives..
My Prayers have turned from desperation to thankfulness. I was looking through my old prayer journals a while back and a constant theme that ran through them was Please Lord, Please, to now saying Thank you Lord, Thank you, for even the smallest things from the sun coming out in the day, to the blessing of my mum still being with us, from tea tasting great, to Matt being home safely.
God is good all the time, all the time God is good!
So its the 20th of July by this time next month we will have been to 2 of the Permanent Care Training Sessions , and as silly as this sounds I feel excited like a kid going to school for the first time. Does anyone else feel the same, its all exciting with new people/friends to meet who will be looking at the same information as us, who are all hopeful to become parents too, where there will be lots of information for us to learn and take in,
just minus the uniform and packed lunch. hahahaa
But seriously while it is very important and will be difficult along the road ahead, it is so exciting to know that at the end of the road will be our children waiting for us to bring them home. :)
So going back to study again next week, at The Salvation Army Training College, real school work and assignments, it will be interesting to see how that all pans out. I am hopeful that God has worked in me this past semester and prepared me for Mission Foundations and that He will continue to develop me further.
anyhoot can't sit round here all day blogging ..
Hope everyone has a spectacular day..
Kat xx
Some times we can get so caught up in the world and activities around us that we get into auto pilot of what we are thinking and praying about. These past 2 months with the move, there has been a dramatic shift in location, emotion, situation, and I believe this has given birth to a definite shift in prayer, both in the doing and the listening to what God is saying.
And I must admit I love it.. its been a really interesting change, rather than a constant prayer in desperation for Jesus to move in my heart and in my life, to take me out of the complacency that I had settled into and really stamp a mark in my life that I could not deny. Well again in an answer to prayer he has done that, He has enriched my time of prayer, shifted my thoughts to look more closely at what is really important, And I believe that through others He is encouraging us to open our hearts more to the children He is surrounding us with in a matter of preparation for the future adoptive children we have enter our lives..
My Prayers have turned from desperation to thankfulness. I was looking through my old prayer journals a while back and a constant theme that ran through them was Please Lord, Please, to now saying Thank you Lord, Thank you, for even the smallest things from the sun coming out in the day, to the blessing of my mum still being with us, from tea tasting great, to Matt being home safely.
God is good all the time, all the time God is good!
So its the 20th of July by this time next month we will have been to 2 of the Permanent Care Training Sessions , and as silly as this sounds I feel excited like a kid going to school for the first time. Does anyone else feel the same, its all exciting with new people/friends to meet who will be looking at the same information as us, who are all hopeful to become parents too, where there will be lots of information for us to learn and take in,
just minus the uniform and packed lunch. hahahaa
But seriously while it is very important and will be difficult along the road ahead, it is so exciting to know that at the end of the road will be our children waiting for us to bring them home. :)
So going back to study again next week, at The Salvation Army Training College, real school work and assignments, it will be interesting to see how that all pans out. I am hopeful that God has worked in me this past semester and prepared me for Mission Foundations and that He will continue to develop me further.
anyhoot can't sit round here all day blogging ..
Hope everyone has a spectacular day..
Kat xx
Thursday, July 14, 2011
The World Still Spins
So while we wait, the world still spins and there is work to be done.
Matt is working like crazy to get things established with his new role in a new town, and I am loving that he is up and gone at a decent time of 8:30am-ish and not while its still dark, returning home to me again by 5:30pm-ish each night its just fabulous to be able to spend quality time with each other.
And I to am trying like crazy to get things off the ground with my business as a Lorraine Lea Linen consultant. I truly am loving my job, and it was great having it running so smoothly before the move and now its just a little hard to get it up and going in the new town, its like starting from scratch again but in the mean time I still have parties to do from where I was so thats good to know.. the flexibility and the fun I get to have with this Job is so worth the struggle and the time and energy to kick it off the ground over here and not just rely on the other parties that are now such a distance to travel for.
As I speak with the people around me to drum up business, I am getting an albeit small glimpse into our future. Fitting in life around the kids and social/sporting commitments, it really makes me glad that I am in the job I'm in and even more that Matt as a Youth Worker is in the new role he is in.
I see the free time that we now have being filled with all manner of activities, Homework, playtime, stories before bed, getting ready for school. And as silly as this might sound to some I look forward to the tantrums too, the I don't wanna eat that, or have a bath, or do my homework, or pick up those toys and clothes.
It's a little funny actually when we sat back talking about it last night.. we could just imagine our kids sneaking out of bed asking for a drink of water or for another cuddle just so they could see us and maybe even be like the grownups and stay up past bedtime.. you know all the things we used to do when we were kids.
Also us going past the bedroom door to hear them still awake and playing with flashlights under their doona's making up imaginary worlds of their own..
Also with my work you heard the word Linen, well for me at the moment they have the sweetest and coolest new designs to go on beds and I keep looking at them going I wish I had someone to tuck up in that at night and read a story too, and even Matt last night said he loved the new Boys ones and thinks we should get a bed that looks like a race car so we can put the boys designs on it.
All of these hopes and dreams we know will one day soon come true. But for now like so many others out there, we wait, and dream, and hope for the day when our kids can come home to us.
So that we can share with and encourage them to seek out their hopes, and dreams for the future.
Lord I pray this not just for us but for all those who are waiting, that you will make us all ready for those angels that come into our lives. Please give us the patience and joy we seek, and guide us to help them live happy, healthy, supported lives of their own. Help us be prepared for what ever twists and turns this journey takes us on. Lord I pray with is your name AMEN
Matt is working like crazy to get things established with his new role in a new town, and I am loving that he is up and gone at a decent time of 8:30am-ish and not while its still dark, returning home to me again by 5:30pm-ish each night its just fabulous to be able to spend quality time with each other.
And I to am trying like crazy to get things off the ground with my business as a Lorraine Lea Linen consultant. I truly am loving my job, and it was great having it running so smoothly before the move and now its just a little hard to get it up and going in the new town, its like starting from scratch again but in the mean time I still have parties to do from where I was so thats good to know.. the flexibility and the fun I get to have with this Job is so worth the struggle and the time and energy to kick it off the ground over here and not just rely on the other parties that are now such a distance to travel for.
As I speak with the people around me to drum up business, I am getting an albeit small glimpse into our future. Fitting in life around the kids and social/sporting commitments, it really makes me glad that I am in the job I'm in and even more that Matt as a Youth Worker is in the new role he is in.
I see the free time that we now have being filled with all manner of activities, Homework, playtime, stories before bed, getting ready for school. And as silly as this might sound to some I look forward to the tantrums too, the I don't wanna eat that, or have a bath, or do my homework, or pick up those toys and clothes.
It's a little funny actually when we sat back talking about it last night.. we could just imagine our kids sneaking out of bed asking for a drink of water or for another cuddle just so they could see us and maybe even be like the grownups and stay up past bedtime.. you know all the things we used to do when we were kids.
Also us going past the bedroom door to hear them still awake and playing with flashlights under their doona's making up imaginary worlds of their own..
Also with my work you heard the word Linen, well for me at the moment they have the sweetest and coolest new designs to go on beds and I keep looking at them going I wish I had someone to tuck up in that at night and read a story too, and even Matt last night said he loved the new Boys ones and thinks we should get a bed that looks like a race car so we can put the boys designs on it.
All of these hopes and dreams we know will one day soon come true. But for now like so many others out there, we wait, and dream, and hope for the day when our kids can come home to us.
So that we can share with and encourage them to seek out their hopes, and dreams for the future.
Lord I pray this not just for us but for all those who are waiting, that you will make us all ready for those angels that come into our lives. Please give us the patience and joy we seek, and guide us to help them live happy, healthy, supported lives of their own. Help us be prepared for what ever twists and turns this journey takes us on. Lord I pray with is your name AMEN
Monday, July 4, 2011
Reading in Tears
I have been up for a number of hours already this morning.. and have been reading documents and articles that honestly bring me to tears... one Article I was made aware of was of a young 12 yr old boy called Christian
http://edition.cnn.com/2011/OPINION/07/03/greene.boy.missing/index.html?eref=mrss_igoogle_cnn
in the linked article it outlines the sickening and distressing conditions in which he was kept for the last of his few short years..
It is in these words that my heart is stirred into action...
Following this I was presented a link that is a colmination of over 200 submissions to the Commonwealth Contribution to Former Forced Adoption Policies and Practices and again I have been moved further to write this...
I feel sick to know the practices of the past and the damage that has been caused through these "Forced Adoptions". And also I am distressed and hurt to read of the inability to find issue with the care of children when abuses have been reported, that after years of supposed investigation, action was not taken to secure the safety of these children, was the workers heart really that cold to no notice, or so blinded by the lies of the Parents (in the case for Christian, his Father and Stepmother) that they failed to see the begging looks in the eyes of the child..
my heart aches for those children and women that have been so mistreated by thier government, and also because of the actions of harmful adults and departments that have been unable to see or to step in fully and assist in situations that have been made know..
Our Journey to parenthood we do not see as a divine right to have a baby but as a humble blessing to be able to help in a situation where we feel God drawing us too.. we look at permanent care as an opportunity to share our love, care, hope and comfort in parenting a children that will hopefully come into our heart and care
We are both grateful to know that the processes that are now in place are for Open and sharing adoptions and guardianship's, rather than the cloak and dagger methods from decades that have past which did and still do cause so much heartache and pain for all parties involved... That the agencies are acting in the best interest for all and not just one party. we look forward to becoming parents, to sharing with hopefully our own biological, and adopted children how much we love and care for them. Also sharing with the birth parents how much we care for them, and hope that we are here as a means to support the future relationship with their child and not hinder them.
We also understand that there may be situations surrounding our "heart born" children that prohibit contact with their birth parents in those cases we will endevour to support and help raise them to be healthy productive members of society with a knowledge that they can become what ever they want in life and will have our love and care and support every step of the way.
We don't know what the future holds for us but we know that in faith, God will guide our every step, that he alone knows the plan and purpose for us, and in everything we do we must trust that everything is being done for His will.
Dear children that come into our lives, if you ever read this know we have been praying for you all along.. know that in our hearts we have been rejoicing ever since we thought about bringing you into our life, and we will be grateful every day for you. No matter what has passed, and no matter what is ahead we love and care for you and will support you the best that we can each step of the way through life. God has a plan and a purpose for each of us.. Jeremiah 29:11
Your Future Extra Mummy and Daddy
Kathryn and Matthew
http://edition.cnn.com/2011/OPINION/07/03/greene.boy.missing/index.html?eref=mrss_igoogle_cnn
in the linked article it outlines the sickening and distressing conditions in which he was kept for the last of his few short years..
It is in these words that my heart is stirred into action...
Following this I was presented a link that is a colmination of over 200 submissions to the Commonwealth Contribution to Former Forced Adoption Policies and Practices and again I have been moved further to write this...
I feel sick to know the practices of the past and the damage that has been caused through these "Forced Adoptions". And also I am distressed and hurt to read of the inability to find issue with the care of children when abuses have been reported, that after years of supposed investigation, action was not taken to secure the safety of these children, was the workers heart really that cold to no notice, or so blinded by the lies of the Parents (in the case for Christian, his Father and Stepmother) that they failed to see the begging looks in the eyes of the child..
my heart aches for those children and women that have been so mistreated by thier government, and also because of the actions of harmful adults and departments that have been unable to see or to step in fully and assist in situations that have been made know..
Our Journey to parenthood we do not see as a divine right to have a baby but as a humble blessing to be able to help in a situation where we feel God drawing us too.. we look at permanent care as an opportunity to share our love, care, hope and comfort in parenting a children that will hopefully come into our heart and care
We are both grateful to know that the processes that are now in place are for Open and sharing adoptions and guardianship's, rather than the cloak and dagger methods from decades that have past which did and still do cause so much heartache and pain for all parties involved... That the agencies are acting in the best interest for all and not just one party. we look forward to becoming parents, to sharing with hopefully our own biological, and adopted children how much we love and care for them. Also sharing with the birth parents how much we care for them, and hope that we are here as a means to support the future relationship with their child and not hinder them.
We also understand that there may be situations surrounding our "heart born" children that prohibit contact with their birth parents in those cases we will endevour to support and help raise them to be healthy productive members of society with a knowledge that they can become what ever they want in life and will have our love and care and support every step of the way.
We don't know what the future holds for us but we know that in faith, God will guide our every step, that he alone knows the plan and purpose for us, and in everything we do we must trust that everything is being done for His will.
Dear children that come into our lives, if you ever read this know we have been praying for you all along.. know that in our hearts we have been rejoicing ever since we thought about bringing you into our life, and we will be grateful every day for you. No matter what has passed, and no matter what is ahead we love and care for you and will support you the best that we can each step of the way through life. God has a plan and a purpose for each of us.. Jeremiah 29:11
Your Future Extra Mummy and Daddy
Kathryn and Matthew
Saturday, July 2, 2011
Kids Cartoons ... One Day
You know what, I really used to like watching kids cartoons growing up. and it hit me... we have a child out there somewhere, maybe not even born into this world yet, who will one day be home with us. I can imagine them curled up in their blankets, in front of the TV eating breakfast, giggling at the different programs, and later on acting out the scenes they saw.. coming to try to coax us into buying another toy... I must admit I like day-dreaming about the "One Day" possibilities..
Cooking and baking in the kitchen with them, running round being silly in the back yard, going to the park and watching them playing on the equipment. making a cubby inside with blankets and pillows and chairs..
and I remembered that it is going to be a long wait.. So as I sit here daydreaming about our kids I wonder to myself are they born yet? are their hearts getting ready to love us too? are they wishing and praying for us like we do for them? the truth is we may never know, but the day we bring home our "heart born" child/children truly is one we feel blessed for...
And we have already been blessed.. with the love of each other, and a joint love for a child that is yet to come home... with the support of family and friends around us.. and also with the new contacts we have made through support groups of others that have and are going through the adoption process locally..
so many blessings and this is only the beginning..
and I have a question to ask.. with the July Kids sale coming up would it be ok to go shopping... :)
Cooking and baking in the kitchen with them, running round being silly in the back yard, going to the park and watching them playing on the equipment. making a cubby inside with blankets and pillows and chairs..
and I remembered that it is going to be a long wait.. So as I sit here daydreaming about our kids I wonder to myself are they born yet? are their hearts getting ready to love us too? are they wishing and praying for us like we do for them? the truth is we may never know, but the day we bring home our "heart born" child/children truly is one we feel blessed for...
And we have already been blessed.. with the love of each other, and a joint love for a child that is yet to come home... with the support of family and friends around us.. and also with the new contacts we have made through support groups of others that have and are going through the adoption process locally..
so many blessings and this is only the beginning..
and I have a question to ask.. with the July Kids sale coming up would it be ok to go shopping... :)
Monday, June 27, 2011
Our First Form.. Anything but trivial
So today I waited patiently by the mail box for the postman.. and like clockwork at 11:32am he came riding past and gave me 3 pieces of mail, 1 in particular was our information pack from Children and Family Services outlining more information regarding Adoption and Permanent Care.
It was exciting opening it up to read the goodies inside.. lots of information, and answers to some of the questions we had, also our first form to fill in to register for the training sessions coming up in August..
I know for anyone not going through this journey it might seem trivial, but that is just it... nothing is trivial.. It's our first form of the many dozens we are bound to fill in and supply on this journey and its really exciting for us.
It left us reflecting on the many forms for various things we have filled in previous to this one, our intention to marry, our change of bank accounts, applying for a car loan.. and (with the exception of our marriage form) we looked forward to none of them as much as we do now for each one that will bring us closer to becoming parents.
We keep reading posts of friends and loved ones that are sharing the joyful news that they are expecting a new addition or first addition to their family. And via this blog we feel the same way.. our time until delivering a child into our life maybe drastically different but it is no less important. The heartache we have experienced in previous months has been diminished to a faded shadow in the background. As we look to all that can and will be, my amazing hubby and I feel so much joy and anticipation that it's just to much to hold it in, and also to much to explain.
Any of the following blog updates may seem a little love struck for a child we don't know or have not even met or been accepted for yet, but my hubby and I believe that the love for that Child/Children starts with a hope for them just as it would if we had been blessed to conceive them ourselves.
I hope and pray for anyone beginning to walk this path to parenthood will feel the joy beginning to bubble away inside, removing all pain that once was consuming, with a love that abounds and waits for a new blessing to enter in..
It was exciting opening it up to read the goodies inside.. lots of information, and answers to some of the questions we had, also our first form to fill in to register for the training sessions coming up in August..
I know for anyone not going through this journey it might seem trivial, but that is just it... nothing is trivial.. It's our first form of the many dozens we are bound to fill in and supply on this journey and its really exciting for us.
It left us reflecting on the many forms for various things we have filled in previous to this one, our intention to marry, our change of bank accounts, applying for a car loan.. and (with the exception of our marriage form) we looked forward to none of them as much as we do now for each one that will bring us closer to becoming parents.
We keep reading posts of friends and loved ones that are sharing the joyful news that they are expecting a new addition or first addition to their family. And via this blog we feel the same way.. our time until delivering a child into our life maybe drastically different but it is no less important. The heartache we have experienced in previous months has been diminished to a faded shadow in the background. As we look to all that can and will be, my amazing hubby and I feel so much joy and anticipation that it's just to much to hold it in, and also to much to explain.
Any of the following blog updates may seem a little love struck for a child we don't know or have not even met or been accepted for yet, but my hubby and I believe that the love for that Child/Children starts with a hope for them just as it would if we had been blessed to conceive them ourselves.
I hope and pray for anyone beginning to walk this path to parenthood will feel the joy beginning to bubble away inside, removing all pain that once was consuming, with a love that abounds and waits for a new blessing to enter in..
Friday, June 24, 2011
First Phone Call
You never know what to expect when you call different areas or departments..
Well today we made the call to our area's adoption/permanent care centre..
after giving some basic information and answering some questions.. we have come away from it excited at the prospect of starting our family.. so now all the waiting starts.. first just waiting for the information pack and inquiry registration details..
Now I understand that the process can possibly take a long time but I also understand that each case is processed on a case by case basis.. .. matching firstly the child with the right family..
so our exciting time to wait begins..
Whatever the future holds is in God's Hands.. and I have to say I feel more calm and happy over the idea of caring for someone elses child that I do over the prospect of dealing with IVF.. that just assures me more that this is right.. even my hubby has a daddy twinkle in his eyes.. you know the one.. I am so in love with my wife and our kids look... I see it on so many faces well.. he is starting to get that little sparkle going on.. its wonderful
If you have been on the fertility rollercoaster you will understand these feelings.. the ones that weigh you down like a slab of concrete.. no matter how much we pep ourselves up that slab is still there hampering our attempts to be happy and calm and in the good body mode that we are so often told we have to be in... it is stressful trying to not be stressed.. how silly is that..
well for now our slab has gone bye byes so lets see what the future holds.. lets see what it is that we are in for on this new road we are walking..
I have heard a number of others in Australia wondering where do I start.. well the best place to start is with you and your partner or on your own.. looking at your life and thinking could I share it .. its not as simple as get a kid bring it home and everything is hunky dory again there is a serious process you and the child/children have to go through.. and that is there for a reason..
remember it's not all about you.. The agencies in the state you are in are working with one purpose in mind.. to fit a child into the right family.. they wont stick you with just any child its not like placing a fast food order.. you may have in mind the kind of children or baby you would like but there is another side you need to consider.. The Child you are hoping to adopt or take into Permanent care has their own needs, their own dreams, and wants for who they want to be placed with and the truth is that may or may not be you.... so as I was saying this process and consideration starts with you at home... the next step may well be to look at the following information at the state you are in.. for Victoria it is http://www.cyf.vic.gov.au/adoption-permanent-care
this site has a lot of information to look over and consider and also a contact section to get in touch with your local area..
so if you are still thinking about it take a look and see what you think and feel then maybe make your First Phone Call
as for me and the hubby lets see what happens on this Process to Parenthood
Well today we made the call to our area's adoption/permanent care centre..
after giving some basic information and answering some questions.. we have come away from it excited at the prospect of starting our family.. so now all the waiting starts.. first just waiting for the information pack and inquiry registration details..
Now I understand that the process can possibly take a long time but I also understand that each case is processed on a case by case basis.. .. matching firstly the child with the right family..
so our exciting time to wait begins..
Whatever the future holds is in God's Hands.. and I have to say I feel more calm and happy over the idea of caring for someone elses child that I do over the prospect of dealing with IVF.. that just assures me more that this is right.. even my hubby has a daddy twinkle in his eyes.. you know the one.. I am so in love with my wife and our kids look... I see it on so many faces well.. he is starting to get that little sparkle going on.. its wonderful
If you have been on the fertility rollercoaster you will understand these feelings.. the ones that weigh you down like a slab of concrete.. no matter how much we pep ourselves up that slab is still there hampering our attempts to be happy and calm and in the good body mode that we are so often told we have to be in... it is stressful trying to not be stressed.. how silly is that..
well for now our slab has gone bye byes so lets see what the future holds.. lets see what it is that we are in for on this new road we are walking..
I have heard a number of others in Australia wondering where do I start.. well the best place to start is with you and your partner or on your own.. looking at your life and thinking could I share it .. its not as simple as get a kid bring it home and everything is hunky dory again there is a serious process you and the child/children have to go through.. and that is there for a reason..
remember it's not all about you.. The agencies in the state you are in are working with one purpose in mind.. to fit a child into the right family.. they wont stick you with just any child its not like placing a fast food order.. you may have in mind the kind of children or baby you would like but there is another side you need to consider.. The Child you are hoping to adopt or take into Permanent care has their own needs, their own dreams, and wants for who they want to be placed with and the truth is that may or may not be you.... so as I was saying this process and consideration starts with you at home... the next step may well be to look at the following information at the state you are in.. for Victoria it is http://www.cyf.vic.gov.au/adoption-permanent-care
this site has a lot of information to look over and consider and also a contact section to get in touch with your local area..
so if you are still thinking about it take a look and see what you think and feel then maybe make your First Phone Call
as for me and the hubby lets see what happens on this Process to Parenthood
Thursday, June 23, 2011
The end of one idea gives birth to another
how did we get to this point
I am a 29yr old happily married woman in Australia, before my hubby and I got married 2 and a bit years ago a lot was discussed including the possible inability for us to conceive without medical intervention. For me the possibility of being a mum one day was an always thought..
you know the one I'm talking about the "I always knew I would be a mum" "I always new I would or could or should....." like I said for me being mum is an always thought.. but for my reproductive system is seems to be a "maybe" thought... unfortunately I am one of thousands who have been diagnose with PCOS which is Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, a delightful syndrome the really loves to mess with your head on so many levels.. please refer to the following link so I don't need to bore you http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001408/
so PCOS coupled with a few other medical drama's (ones I won't list) and we have issues..
in our first 6 months we lost two different little angels before the first trimester after that nadda.. :(
with PCOS your cycle can be messed up and all out of sync at the best of times.. try 12 months without a cycle and see how you go.. not fun at all especially when you have the doctor saying try this and it will work, and then it only does one part and not the ovulating, then try this one, but it doesn't work because the first lot still hasn't done the job.. lets just say I have a very uncooperative system..
so now we come to this part.. treatment has not worked and waiting for it to do its own thing is not happening either..
so no we are looking at Adoption...
how did we really go from lets make a baby to this.. well it came as an easy response.. as much as my hubby would love to have his features on another running around the back yard, and as much as i would love to go through the pregnancy (yes even the not so great bits) we have accepted that its possibly just not the right time for our bodies to work together.. and may never happen.
and after a long long conversation We both agreed we could not justify going through IVF....
as I was saying at the start of this Blog, before we were even married we spoke about adopting and or fostering.. with a joint understanding that this is something we would look into doing in 5-10 years.. well turns out we don't want to wait that long.. there is something to be said for raising your own kids, but there is something to be said for sharing the wealth of love you have with a child who can be your own..
so here is where it all begins the grueling and hopefully in time rewarding efforts to go from adoption to parenthood... because that is what we are talking about..
if you are someone who is considering adoption remember to consider this you are not just getting a child you are becoming a parent.. there is no telling what the future may hold but parenthood is for life.. I have already read and heard enough horror stories to know that your head, heart and your life need to be completely committed to this not just your house or your living situation
so as we go down this path to parenthood I hope to share with you what we experience, the joys, the frustrations, and the joys. (oh yes I know I said that already but the end result we hope for is one of joy) you have to have hope.. hold onto it and never lose hope..
the first step for us in an information session.. fingures crossed we come away from it with a much clearer picture of what is ahead for us..
I am a 29yr old happily married woman in Australia, before my hubby and I got married 2 and a bit years ago a lot was discussed including the possible inability for us to conceive without medical intervention. For me the possibility of being a mum one day was an always thought..
you know the one I'm talking about the "I always knew I would be a mum" "I always new I would or could or should....." like I said for me being mum is an always thought.. but for my reproductive system is seems to be a "maybe" thought... unfortunately I am one of thousands who have been diagnose with PCOS which is Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, a delightful syndrome the really loves to mess with your head on so many levels.. please refer to the following link so I don't need to bore you http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001408/
so PCOS coupled with a few other medical drama's (ones I won't list) and we have issues..
in our first 6 months we lost two different little angels before the first trimester after that nadda.. :(
with PCOS your cycle can be messed up and all out of sync at the best of times.. try 12 months without a cycle and see how you go.. not fun at all especially when you have the doctor saying try this and it will work, and then it only does one part and not the ovulating, then try this one, but it doesn't work because the first lot still hasn't done the job.. lets just say I have a very uncooperative system..
so now we come to this part.. treatment has not worked and waiting for it to do its own thing is not happening either..
so no we are looking at Adoption...
how did we really go from lets make a baby to this.. well it came as an easy response.. as much as my hubby would love to have his features on another running around the back yard, and as much as i would love to go through the pregnancy (yes even the not so great bits) we have accepted that its possibly just not the right time for our bodies to work together.. and may never happen.
and after a long long conversation We both agreed we could not justify going through IVF....
as I was saying at the start of this Blog, before we were even married we spoke about adopting and or fostering.. with a joint understanding that this is something we would look into doing in 5-10 years.. well turns out we don't want to wait that long.. there is something to be said for raising your own kids, but there is something to be said for sharing the wealth of love you have with a child who can be your own..
so here is where it all begins the grueling and hopefully in time rewarding efforts to go from adoption to parenthood... because that is what we are talking about..
if you are someone who is considering adoption remember to consider this you are not just getting a child you are becoming a parent.. there is no telling what the future may hold but parenthood is for life.. I have already read and heard enough horror stories to know that your head, heart and your life need to be completely committed to this not just your house or your living situation
so as we go down this path to parenthood I hope to share with you what we experience, the joys, the frustrations, and the joys. (oh yes I know I said that already but the end result we hope for is one of joy) you have to have hope.. hold onto it and never lose hope..
the first step for us in an information session.. fingures crossed we come away from it with a much clearer picture of what is ahead for us..
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